Have you ever heard the phrase, "shoulding all over yourself?" It means looking back at perceived mistakes and telling yourself that you should have done this or shouldn't have done that. And when a marriage collapses, it is not unusual to torture yourself in this manner. But even though self-reflection can help a person grow, you don't want to dwell on the past to the point of spoiling your present and future.
If you are a husband and father and you have regrets over your marriage, be aware that you have plenty of time to make personal improvements, especially in regard to your relationship with your child. In fact, your self-awareness can help you develop into an even better father than you ever imagined.
But to do this, you will have to be able to spend time with your child. This means that you will need to make sure that you negotiate fair visitation terms when you work on your parenting plan with your soon-to-be ex. And this requires standing strong and fighting for an agreement that contains acceptable custody terms.
Unfortunately, if you feel you weren't the best husband or father, you will be so discouraged that you may not put forth the effort necessary to get what you know is best for you and your child. At the Fabio & Merrill law firm, we understand how difficult divorce and custody negotiations can be, and we are prepared to act on your behalf in an effort to get you the custody rights that you and your child deserve. By taking the right steps now, you won't be "shoulding" yourself later.