If you are among the many noncustodial parents across Texas who are looking forward to some quality time with noncustodial children this summer, you may have some trepidation about how your upcoming visit may go. At Fabio & Merrill, we have helped numerous clients navigate the complexities of child custody and custodial relationships, and we can offer an informed, experienced perspective that may help you do the same.
If you live far away from your child, these summer visits may be your best opportunity to spend any significant amount of quality time together, so it makes sense that you want to do everything in your power to make the most of it. To do so, though, Huffington Post notes that you may find it useful to modify your idea of “quality time.” Many noncustodial parents try and “make up for lost time” by taking pricy vacations or day trips, or by showering their children with gifts. In most cases, though, your child just wants to get to know you better and take part in activities that enable him or her to do so.
You may also find that your visit with your noncustodial child goes more smoothly if you set boundaries soon upon arrival. Most professionals attest that you want your noncustodial child to follow the same rules and guidelines as any other child living in your home during the visit. Furthermore, if you have since remarried, set boundaries with your new spouse to ensure that you, and not your new partner, are the primary disciplinarian of your visiting child.
Finally, do everything in your power to maintain at least an amicable relationship with your child’s other parent. If your child feels as if his or her custodial parent is on board about the visit, he or she is that much more likely to feel comfortable enjoying the time spent with you. More information about child custody issues is available on our website.