Ending a relationship is never easy. When there are kids involved, things can get downright messy and confusing. Your divorce may be in its final stages or finally over. But before you can move on with your life in Houston, you must learn how to make custody work with your ex-spouse for the benefit of your children.
In divorce, many things that were once shared between you and your ex-partner become separate. The one thing that does not change is your obligation to be a responsible co-parent with your former spouse. Unless your circumstances and the courts rule otherwise, you must find a way to raise your kids with their other parent to protect their best interests. Here are some things for you to keep in mind when trying to make your custody arrangement work with your ex-spouse.
Put your children first
Always put your kids first when you talk to your partner. Keep in mind that your personal relationship with your ex-spouse is over and in the past. Keep things on a positive note moving forward to create a bright, healthy and cohesive parental front for your children.
Everybody is living separate lives which can make keeping track of everything a bit challenging. Missed visitation, child pickups, late arrivals and cancellations can wreak havoc on your kids’ lives. It is important for you and their other parent to communicate as often as possible to stay actively involved with your children. Open and frequent communication can prevent disagreements and conflicts, states Parents.com. Sometimes it can be hard for parents to talk to each other, even if they are discussing matters that are related to their children. The trauma of their relationships and separations may still be fresh on their minds.
Use emails, text messages, shared calendars, apps and other mediums to keep track of everything that is going on so you and the other parent can stay aware of everything, including last minute changes. You will find it easiier to plan your interactions because they simplify the steps you need to take to share your parental duties amicably.
Shared parenting is not always easy. But with consideration and respect for each other’s lives and your children, it is possible for you and your former spouse to successfully share custody.