When going through a divorce, it's important to separate fact from fiction. If you neglect to do so, you could make a mistake that costs you time and money, while also adding more stress to the process.
There are a variety of divorce myths circulating, all of which can complicate your situation. Here are six of the most common:
- Mediation won't work: There are times when divorce mediation doesn't work, but you shouldn't assume this from the start. Even if you're at serious odds with the other individual, you have the opportunity to work through your issues in mediation.
- You'll lose everything: Regardless of the reason for your divorce, property division should be fair and equitable. Even if you're responsible for the divorce, it doesn't mean you'll lose everything. You have the opportunity in mediation to negotiate and compromise.
- Your ex-spouse can keep you from seeing your children: While you may not win physical custody of your children, you should be able to settle on a visitation schedule that allows you to spend time together.
- Mothers have more power than fathers: This may have been the case many years ago, but the law has evolved in more modern times. Now, decisions regarding custody are based on the best interests of the children.
- Divorce always results in hostility: There are times when this happens, but through collaborative divorce or mediation it's possible to avoid additional battles. With this approach, your focus is on resolving conflicts, as opposed to blaming one another.
- Your children choose whom they live with: Depending on the age of your children, they may have some say about where they live. However, as noted above, child custody decisions are based on the best interests of the children.
If you begin to believe these myths, you could follow the wrong advice as you prepare for divorce and move through the process.
Conversely, when you focus solely on the facts and what it takes to protect your legal rights, you're in better position to efficiently deal with anything that comes your way.
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