There are a lot of things to think about when going through a divorce in Texas, such as whether to sell a home and how to divide other jointly held assets. Before getting into the weeds of a separation, however, you should make sure that divorce is truly in your best interest and not just something that seems appealing during a difficult time.
Distinguishing a rough patch from a more permanent problem
You may think that if you have a few bad months or even a bad year during a marriage, the marriage is doomed. This is not always the case. Other stressors, such as the loss of a job or the death of a family member, can have a long-lasting impact. Take an inventory of everything going on in your life and try to determine whether you would be experiencing problems even if you were to get a divorce.
Is your partner a source of support?
If you are going through a rough time, your spouse should be someone to whom you want to turn for emotional support. If you find yourself always going to friends and family and never your partner, this may be a sign that your relationship is on the rocks. Your partner should validate you and enable you to open up, and you should be doing the same in return.
Have your values changed?
Some couples experience a rift over time as their values evolve and their priorities change. For instance, one spouse may value economic stability more than he or she did at a younger age, and the other spouse’s spendthrift behavior could therefore become increasingly problematic. If you and your spouse have not grown together, or if you find yourselves trying to change each other’s values, you need to realize that there may be no fix. However, before asking for a divorce, make sure you have discussed any problems with your spouse at length.
It is typically best if you clue your partner in on what you are feeling and see if there is any resolution before you decide to divorce. When you want to start exploring your options, it may help to speak with a family law attorney.