According to researchers, there are several key actions that couples in Texas and elsewhere take that undermine the strength and viability of their marriages. Those actions include criticizing their partners, stonewalling during conversations and consistently acting in a defensive manner. Those who show contempt for their partners may be the most likely to see their marriages end in divorce.
Why contempt for a spouse is such a problem
Making rude comments or jokes about your partner could be seen as an attempt to show your superiority over that person. Over time, this can have a negative impact on your spouse’s self-esteem and perceived value as a person. Ideally, you will strive to treat your husband or wife as an equal and someone who is deserving of love and respect.
Acting in a defensive manner makes communication difficult
At some point during your marriage, you will make a mistake that causes your partner to feel hurt or angry. When you are called out on your behavior, it can be tempting to downplay your actions or somehow put the blame back on your spouse. However, attempting to avoid criticism may make it seem as if you aren’t taking your spouse’s feelings seriously.
The same may be true if you resort to stonewalling during tough conversations. Stonewalling occurs when you simply refuse to talk about a certain subject.
If you are being physically or emotionally abused by a spouse, it may be in your best interest to seek a divorce. The same might be true if you’re struggling to communicate with your partner in a meaningful way. A family law attorney may be able to review your case and create a strategy to obtain a favorable outcome in the matter.